They’re Good At Communicating
Communication is a necessary part of any healthy relationship, but it’s especially important when it comes to sex. You need to be able to communicate about consent, your boundaries, and your desires. You need to be able to give feedback to your partner, and be able to accept feedback from them. You need to be able to talk about awkward or uncomfortable moments, and about the good times too! If the two of you aren’t able to talk about sex openly and honestly, it’s not a good sign of things to come. It can take a little while to develop the trust necessary for good communication, but you want to look for partners who don’t seem to shy away from talking.
They Make An Effort
Keeping your sex life hot over the course of years (or even your entire lifetime!) takes a LOT of effort! Great sex is created. It doesn’t just happen naturally. Perhaps the single most important characteristic to look for in a sexual partner is their willingness to put effort into keeping your sex life interesting, romantic, and intimate. Even in the beginning, do they ask what you like? Do they suggest new positions?
You also want your partner to be active about addressing problems. Even the most sexually compatible couples are going to argue about sex from time to time. And every couple is going to have to deal with life challenges and stresses that negatively impact their sex life. (más…)